Parents has their expectations that their children will be successful man in the eye of societies. Therefore, they feel a sense of failure, if their children do not live up to them. Parent’s great emphasis is on materialistic achievement and scoring points before their friends and neighbors. Parents neglect spiritual values. Therefore, their children fall victim to these mental pressures. Children are encouraged to excel in their studies, to secure jobs that pay well, to accumulate as much wealth as possible. Many parents do not place too much value on virtues such as gratitude, honesty, integrity, kindness, consideration and tolerance. Because, parents believe worldly success is more important for children than become a creative person.
Due to such social pressure, parents, wrongly, and without thinking, encourage or even force their children to work hard and compete for the so-called social success. They impose their value system on their children, who are under pressure to be smart, to be popular, and to excel. Children are under the impression that success means the ability to compete, conquer and quell opposition, ignoring the need to establish an inner harmony with oneself.
Whether the children have the interest or not, they are, expect to attend classes on computers, music, ballet, swimming and so on, under the misguided belief that such activities are very important for success and happiness in life. There is nothing wrong in pursuing such healthy activities if the children are interested and have the talents required.
Parents should not place the children under such pressure-to be brilliant beyond their capabilities, to be leaders when they are not ready for leadership or to be star athletes when they have no sporting attributes. Because of unrealistic goals, children are forced into mental pressure. Therefore, they always feel bored and depress. They are not able to lead a stress free life of childhood. These pressures have also the undesirable consequence of giving rise to emotional insecurity in their adulthood. Parents should not transfer their ambitions to children and rob them of their childhood.
Discover Hidden Potential: A parent should be aware of the potential within his child-of what he can accomplish in the future in his own way and his own good time. You cannot expect a primary school student to set his sights on going to university, deciding his career, or about his marriage. However, one thing is certain. There is no such thing as a useless child. Every human being has some talent, some potential, special gift that he gets from God as birth gift. An academically stupid child may be born with gift in motor mechanics or cooking. It is, therefore, the duty of parents to recognize what a child good in, his aptitude, to pay particular attention to such gifts or talents, and encourage the child to develop them for the good of society and the child’s sense of fulfillment. Try to train the children according to their mentality to do something, which they can do for their living.
INSPIRING STORIES FOR UNLEASH HIDDEN POTENTIAL ARE A CHANGING AGENT FOR LIFE]STORYIES FOR UNLEASH | HIDDEN POTENTIAL: Once a boy, who gifted from God in poetry, was born into poor family. His talent impressed many people but not his father, who being uneducated, was not able to appreciate his son’s talent. One day when his son replied to him in poetry, he became very angry and started beating the boy. While the father caned, the boy replied to his father in poetry.
“Dear father, please,
Cane me if you must;
But poetry is the gift I was born with,
It’s a gift I did not ask for
Nor is it one that I could lose;
Allow me, dear father, to use it at least.”