​Isn’t it amazing to be in love with someone? Isn’t it the most meaningful relationship you ever have with another person? But just think for a while that aren’t there so much more than a women can wish to achieve before settling down with a suitable mate? Getting married is so easy these days but the challenge remains making the marriage work for a lifetime.

We brown females have been drilled with the idea that marriage is an achievement from a very tender age, which is why I didn’t even question it when I started to grew up. But, now I do, proudly.

Decades back the only way for a woman to secure her life was to get married to a decent man who would look after her, pay for her expenses and cravings and whatsoever. However, if you look today’s scenario you can relate that when a man and woman stand equal and us girls can pay our bills and look after ourselves, we shouldn’t regret back to living the way we did when we exercised no rights. Today we have other options in our hands. You can always and always settle down with the person you’re in love with but always give a second thought about it.

Falling in love could be a person’s ultimate aim and it’s absolutely understandable but marriage should never be an only and ultimate option for a woman. Not all the beings in the world are fated to get married. Not everyone of us are fated to be happy even after getting married. Be that our soul mate or a stranger. If you take my example, I am a big fan of the chapters ‘love’ and ‘marriage’ but they are never my thing. For those reasons I tend to oppose the fact of getting married. For me getting married cut your wings to some extent, pushes you away from your cozy comfort zone and makes you a weaker soul as you start to depend upon that person. The definition of being married to me is that it would manipulate your ways of leading your life, your friends, your job, your career, your habits, your interests etc. You will be trapped in the bindings of adjustments, compromises and commitments. Freedom seems to be taken away from your life. You can no longer breath in independence. Self-rule would be going away from your grasp when you’ll have a partner beside you. To me, married sex lives fade over time, which in turns lead to affairs. Reaserch found that this has even been found in the most well-intentioned people too. In the state of being married you can’t put one’s own personal need first.

Well a lot of guys would strongly disagree with me and I don’t blame you people but if two people in the marriage are determined to cope with negetivities, then they can always last through the good and bad times. Maybe I am unfortunate that I don’t believe in marriage anymore. Lastly, I want to conclude by stating one of my favorite quotes which I am pondering upon.
One should always be in love. That is the reason one should never marry by Oscar Wilde.